This April I
completed two half marathons, attended my degree graduation ceremony and
started a new job. It’s been quite a month, the culmination of many weeks,
months and years of work. But I have come to realize more than ever how it’s not just about me.
It could be an age thing, but I think that I have come to another milestone
from knowledge to understanding.
Let me try to
explain.
If
you want to see a rainbow you have to learn to like the rain
-
Paulo Coelho, Aleph
I’m not saying
it was nothing, that would be false modesty, it was flipping hard work and it
hurts right now, but it was an enlightening run as I had time to think of how
so many people are behind all that we want to achieve in life.
Don’t be intimidated by other people’s
opinions. Only mediocrity is sure of itself, so take risks and do what you
really want to do.
-
Paulo
Coelho, Aleph
I left school
in 1984 with a handful of O - levels, I was fairly quiet at school, not very
academically bright, not particularly good at any sport but I loved music, some
things never change. I remember a meeting between the headmaster and my father,
the headmaster explained that I was a nice lad, but probably wouldn’t do much
after O-levels, as annoying and discouraging as it was, it sadly turned out to
be true.
After leaving
school my parents separated, instead of doing A-levels I took up business
studies. But as a result of a slightly uncertain home life, University was the
last thing on my mind, so I went out to work. After a few years my employer
sponsored me through college and I ended up achieving my HNC in Electronics.
And believe me that was tough, certainly for me, far too much advanced mathematics
for my liking.
At the back of
my mind through the years was this continual urge to complete a degree, never
quite sure why. As the years went by I got busier and busier, my career didn’t
suffer as a result of my alleged academic set back, but my inner desire to
achieve my degree never really went away, nor did the words of my former
headmaster.
So in 2008 I
decided I would give a degree a go and enrolled on an ‘Openings Course’ with
the Open University, it’s a 3 month introductory course a chance to see how you
get along with study without over committing your time or your money. What I
feared the most was simply not being bright enough to do it, but with the help
of my tutor, it was more a case of getting my head down. And in 2012 I finally
graduated with a BSc. I must add, due to previous study, including HNC
Electronics and a Marketing qualification, I managed to get some study credit,
so I wasn’t starting from scratch, but I can’t state how elated I was at its
final completion.
I have however,
come to realise, it was as much down to others as myself in achieving it. The
sacrifice of my family, my wife and children, was as important as my
determination to complete it. Not to mention the support of my fellow students,
the tutors and the course teams who research, put the courses together and get
the relevant accreditation.
Accept what you are able to do and what you are
not able to do, accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it.
Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others. Don’t assume it’s too late to
get involved.
-
‘Tuesdays
with Morrie’, Mitch Albom
I know I’m not
the brightest, I know I am not the fittest and I know I am not the fastest, but
I will have a go at whatever my heart desires and somehow with the help of many
other people, some I know and many I do not know or will ever meet, I am able
to do interesting things. I think it helps me to realize, that many
coincidences and people have brought me to where I am today, but it’s those who
give that will help me get to where I want to be tomorrow.
The two tough
questions I have now are.
1. Where do I want to be tomorrow?
2. How can I best
give to help others achieve their hearts desire as others will mine?
Psalm 32:8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should
go; I will counsel you and watch over you